My inspiration for writing this post came long before Jesse Williams’ ground breaking BET Awards Speech. It came long before Justin Timberlake’s misguided Twitter reaction. The inspiration comes from years of feeling awkward whenever I would sing and hear someone say “Oh that white boy got soul.” It comes from the fact that white artists like Sam Smith & Adele have very powerful, politically-driven marketing machines pumping millions of dollars into their careers, while black artists like Jazmine Sullivan don’t nearly get the support they deserve.
The dating world for musicians is often a complex one. I’ll be writing this article based on my personal experience from a single male’s perspective. Since I’m NYC based, I’ll be explaining why that makes dating even harder. Whether you’re a male or female in the industry, there are various complexities that can make things very challenging when it comes to dating. Before I even get into it, let me properly preface this with some important context. Pay attention to the next line.
As a musician, dating is not as glorious as the stereotype makes it seem.
Alright folks – you’ve heard it hundreds, if not thousands of times before. The most infamously over used phrase among up and comers in the music industry.
Let me start by saying that this article is going to piss a lot of people off. If you’re one of the millions (yes millions) of independent artists/producers out there trying to make something of yourself, you’re going to love what I’m about to tell you. If you’re one of the shady opportunists still trying to “hustle” your way into a quick buck, you’re going to hate me. I must be totally unapologetic about this. I don’t care either.